A vibrator is chosen by three things: where you want stimulation, which size and shape are comfortable for you, and how you want to control the intensity. Material and price matter, but they come second. Below we go through types, sizes and modes so you can compare models on their product pages.

This continues Where to start: your first toy: there we cover the general choice, and here we focus on vibrators themselves.

In brief

  • Vibrators are external, internal or combined; anal ones and vibrating rings are separate types.
  • The size of internal models is measured by diameter: roughly from one to five fingers.
  • Constant vibration is on almost all models; pulse patterns are on some.
  • For a start, a simple single-motor model is enough, and a more expensive one is not always better.

Types of vibrators

Type How it works When it suits
External and mini vibrators Stimulate external areas; the shape is not necessarily cylindrical, to cover more surface When you want external stimulation
Internal (including G-spot) Used for insertion; usually long and cylindrical If internal stimulation interests you
Combined (“rabbit”) Work inside and outside at once; often have two motors If you want both kinds of stimulation in one toy
Anal Have a flared base, so the toy cannot slip inside For anal stimulation; always check the base
Vibrating rings Add vibration during sex or masturbation For extra stimulation

Size and shape

  • Internal models range from about one to five fingers in width.
  • External models range from small (about 8 cm) to large massagers.
  • Anal models are usually smaller or come in several sizes.
  • Check length and diameter in the product details: this is more accurate than judging by the photo.

Modes and motor

  • Type of vibration. Broad vibration covers a larger area; targeted vibration acts on a specific spot.
  • Modes. Constant vibration is on almost all models, while patterns and pulses are on some only.
  • Motors. One motor is simpler to start with; with two, the internal and external parts can be controlled separately.
  • Motion. Some toys add a thrusting motion for penetration.
  • Check the power source, water protection and noise level in the product description and the manufacturer's instructions.

Material and lubricant

The most common choice is silicone, because it is soft, does not absorb moisture and washes easily. ABS plastic and stainless steel are also called body-safe. Jelly-like and porous materials (jelly, PVC, TPE, TPR) are best avoided or used with a condom, since they can hold dirt.

Silicone vibrators need a water-based lubricant: a silicone one can damage the surface. Details: which lubricant suits silicone toys.

How to choose: a short routine

  1. Decide on the kind of stimulation: external, internal or both.
  2. Pick a type from the table above and check the size on the product page.
  3. Make sure the material does not absorb moisture.
  4. Decide whether you need modes; simple ones are enough for a start.
  5. Compare prices: price does not guarantee quality, so do not limit yourself to the most expensive option.

Safety limits

Before first use, read the instructions and start with the lowest intensity. Wash the toy with warm water and mild soap before and after every use. If two people use it, put a clean condom on for each person or wash it between users. For anal use, choose a model with a flared base. If pain, irritation or any other problem appears, stop and see a doctor. This article is informational and does not replace a consultation.

Frequently asked questions

Which vibrator should I choose to start?

Usually a simple, affordable single-motor option made of a body-safe material. Choose the type by the stimulation you want to try.

How is a “rabbit” different from an ordinary vibrator?

It is a combined model: it stimulates internal and external areas at the same time. Some have two motors that are controlled separately.

Which size should I pick?

For internal models the width ranges from about one to five fingers. Check exact sizes on the product page.

How many modes do I need?

For a start, constant vibration with adjustable intensity is enough. Patterns and pulses are on some models and are a matter of preference.

Can I share a vibrator with a partner?

It is better to wash it between users or put a new condom on for each person.

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